For this assignment I chose to write a story about a lonely
young girl who finally figured out her sexuality. I’m going to title it:
Victoria’s
Secret
When Victoria was a little girl, she
preferred to play with boys rather than girl, and the little children would
tease her about being a boy. As early as six years old she would dress in her
brother clothe and play dress up in her father’s hat and shoes. As she grew
older, and would go shopping with her mother she would always pick out clothe
that boys wore. She never wanted to buy any dresses, and when her mother would
buy dresses she didn’t want to wear them not even to church. When she played sports
in high school, she was very athletic who could play as well as any of the boy.
On the playground afterschool she would always play the basketball with boys on
the court, never with the girls and some of them made fun of her and called her
names. Victoria did not have many friend girls as she was growing up because
they would tease her and make fun of the way she dressed. Once she graduated
from high school she tried college for one semester but could not make it
through. Thought about going to JobCorps to get a trade, but she got pregnant,
and wasn’t able to attend JobCorps.
About two years ago I was
introduce to Victoria and she was pregnant, and she did not have any medical
insurance, or Medicaid. She lived with her mother and aunt whereas she and her
mother did not get alone very well. The two was always arguing with each other
about one thing or another all the times. So Victoria stated to her mother “why
you didn’t tell me about having boyfriends and not girlfriends”? Her mother
replied, I thought you knew, they didn’t teach you in school.
Afterward she stated to me that she
is a lesbian, and that she had sex one time with a man because of a dare
someone gave her that resulted in her becoming pregnant. By her not knowing the
differences of sex with a man and sex with a woman resulted in life long
responsibility for her and the father of the child. The little boy is fourteen
month old and he is a happy little boy. The mother is doing well with her
sexuality and raising her child.
Hi Gloria, your story made me think about the situation that many gays are facing. They would like to come out of the closets, but the reality is crural. When gays tried to express it in their direct or indirect ways to the people who they think might understand them well, most of time they are disappointed by their reactions. As parents, we need to be observant and approachable for children to talk to. Only by doing that, we can make sure children will not be scared to talk to us about any thing that confuses them. I also believe that mutual and natal communications between parents and children have the positive impact on children's development. Thank you for sharing.
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ReplyDeleteThis story is interesting. I wondered if her mother would have told her about girlfriends if things would have been different. I am a firm believer that you like what you like regardless if you know what it or not especially sexuality.
I think this story really serves as a reminder that we can't wait and rely on someone else to teach our children about things in life. We really have to be responsible and take an interest in helping our children to be informed about the choices that they make.
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